Showing posts with label Spiritual Father. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Spiritual Father. Show all posts

Wednesday, 13 November 2013

Learning Fatherhood (7 fine): an Ode to the Prodigal Father



"Learning Fatherhood" are reflections on Spiritual Fatherhood. They are not mature reflections on the theme and may be considered more "experiences" and meditations through which we come to Spiritual Fatherhood in the Priesthood. As a seminarian I know that this will be the identity and challenge I am called to take on especially in these last years of priestly formation.

First there was Love


The Prodigal Father stood waiting for me, his Son, and he would have waited sunset after sunset watching as the sun fell behind the westerly hills...

Sunset view from Seminary

The Death of a son can come about in two ways, through the end of a human life and also through the breaking up of a relationship. Yet Hope can never really die. Can Hope ever really be broken? This Prodigal Son left behind everything for a pocket full of cash and a few ladies which he fancied. And he was gone. 

"Can Hope ever really be broken?"

The Father is a portrayal of both Triune Father and Triune Son. But where could the Holy Spirit have been throughout all of this? He was there when the Prodigal Son "came to his senses" or as other translations say, "came to himself" (Lk 15:17). The Holy Spirit brings us back to ourselves, to our own identities - the greatest of which is as Son or Daughter of a Father who art in Heaven. The "Love", as St. Thomas Aquinas refers to the Holy Spirit (See Summa Theo. I q37 a1), and since Love moves mountains, it moved the Prodigal Son to return to his Father with all His Heart much like the calling for the whole People of Israel. He, as many of us do, memorized by wrote his Act of Contrition: "Father, I have sinned against Heaven and against you..."(Lk 15:18,21) to await the Father's reaction.

"Yet even now, says the LORD, return to me with your whole heart"
(Joel 2:12)

How was the Father going to react? Who knows if the debtor will pardon the debt? Is that a mystery for us? No, somewhere deep inside, with a child's intuition, perhaps contrary to our own human father's reactions, this Father always forgives. 


The Prodigal Son
Rembrandt van Rijn


Then came Forgiveness - The Reunion

If forgiveness is poured out, should it have been in vain? Would it not have to have been purchased? Couldn't we just imagine that God had always just been full of mercy? Of course he was. Nonetheless, the Father had paid for his Son's return. The 'hiddenness' of the Father's life doesn't show the part of one who had 'paid' for his Son's return. I'm sure he paid in tears.

"Son though he was, he learned obedience from what he suffered"
(Heb 5:8)

Our Father in Heaven watched his Son offer his life for each and every one of us on a Cross, and that sacrifice he would never consider 'common'. He would consider it as 'special' or rather 'unique' - requiring great merit - and that great merit was shared with us. It is called Redemption. 

'Infinite forgiveness' is another way of saying Redemption. The Son gave his life so that every Son and Daughter would find himself welcome at his Father's home. Now comes the question with the open ending. You know that the parable never really comes to an end. The feast, the angry elder son, the Father-Son speech...What kind of an ending was that?

You give it one.



"Blessed are the Merciful for they shall be shown Mercy" (Mt 5:7)

If we ask forgiveness without learning how to forgive can I really count myself as forgiven? Could I ever really be satisfied with that?

As a future Prodigal Father and Priest I'll be honest, I don't 'tremble before the Confessional', I'm too proud for that. Yet who am I to bridge the abyss between Prodigal Father and Prodigal Son? Blessed are the Merciful for they shall be shown Mercy.

Lord, Have Mercy, I hope I can bring your prodigal sons back to life. 

The End



Sunday, 10 November 2013

Learning Fatherhood (6):Eucharistify Me

"Learning Fatherhood" are reflections on Spiritual Fatherhood. They are not mature reflections on the theme and may be considered more "experiences" and meditations through which we come to Spiritual Fatherhood in the Priesthood. As a seminarian I know that this will be the identity and challenge I am called to take on especially in these last years of priestly formation.

I've been learning French. I don't know if I'm the only Korean (and American) living in Italy learning French. In the midst of this curious linguistic scenario one of the most peculiar prayers came to my mind in Italian:

"Eucaristificami"
"Eucharistify Me"
I can't say that I have been saying it very often but some times before the Blessed Sacrament or wherever I find myself uttering these words often, "Lord, make me more like you".
My Community in Thursday Night Eucharistic Hour
LC Center for Higher Studies - Rome, Italy

Really, what else can I say is the purpose of the Priesthood - is there any other goal to which I would like to become? Can there be anything or anyone higher to which I can anspire? Lord, to whom shall we go?
Everyday throughout the afternoon we have exposition of the Blessed Sacrament and anyone who would like come down from a study period (some choose study Philosophy or Theology on their knees) to spend time with Our Lord: Way, Truth and Life


  
We discover in the words before the Consecration a formation plan for a seminarian and a religious:
Accepit panem - "He took the Bread": Each Priest is called to become an image of our Lord, Ultimate Spiritual Father and Purpose of our Lives.
Fregit - "He Broke it": In this transformation we are "broken" or sacrificed with our Lord in as much as we grow close to Him in grace seeking out our common "Death on the Cross".
Dedit - "He Gave it": The Apostolic mission imparted on us is one of "gift and mystery". We have received a mystery - Jesus Christ - beyond our human capacities which we would like to "give to many".


 "The Priest and the Sacrifice are One and the Same"
(St. Thomas Aquinas)
Finally, I found inspiring words while reading the Summa Theologiae of Thomas Aquinas.
"...also the priest carries the image of Christ in whose person and by whose power he prenounces the words for the consecration..and thus in some way the Priest is [one and] the same as the [Eucharistic] Sacrifice" (III q.83 a.1 ad 3)
 Ad tertium dicendum quod, per eandem rationem, etiam sacerdos gerit imaginem Christi, in cuius persona et virtute verba pronuntiat ad consecrandum, ut ex supra dictis patet. Et ita quodammodo idem est sacerdos et hostia.

Lord,
"Eucaristificami"


Wednesday, 30 October 2013

Learning Fatherhood (3): Francis and Fatherhood

"Learning Fatherhood" are reflections on Spiritual Fatherhood. They are not mature reflections on the theme and may be considered more "experiences" and meditations through which we come to Spiritual Fatherhood in the Priesthood. As a seminarian I know that this will be the identity and challenge I am called to take on especially in these last years of priestly formation.
Each Pope has a personal ‘style’ through which He proclaims the Gospel. John Paul was, according to Navy Seal Marcus Lutrell, a.k.a. “Lone Survivor”, what could have been “the best Navy Seal” in history. Each person has an interesting viewpoint from which he sees each Pope. A Papal Photographer, once speaking to me about Pope Benedict, called him, “The Theologian Pope” (Papa Teologo). About Francis a friend from New York calls him, "Pope Squishy", since she's dying to give him a hug. Now, If Francis were to ask me:
 
“Who do you say that I am?”


I would respond:
“A Spiritual Father.”




Corpus Christi Procession in Rome - May 5, 2013.
Pope Francis decides to walk with the rest of the procession
instead of boarding the Eucharistic Pope Mobile

 
When Civiltà Cattolica interviewed (click here for PDF) Francis in August I wondered how he would respond to the question: “Who is Jorge Mario Bergoglio?” He answered with a plain but forthright answer: “a sinner…”. You immediately see a man that does not give into a P.C. environment and thus will be willing to proclaim the Gospel wherever and whenever possible. The Jesuit Francis is a proud and faithful religious. He doesn’t shirk from the fact that he has a vocation within a religious order which to many eyes has become a center of confusion and disorder since Vatican II. To this exaggeration by many Catholics and Non he brings a clear response about the Jesuits - not so much to reform - but to make us think, “wait a minute there...are you sure you are judging [the Jesuits] rightly?” He is someone who is sure of himself - convinced, not because he is proud - but because his trust and discernment are humble and in the Lord. In Pope Francis' Heart is a capacity to “go into the harvest fields” sent by the “Lord of the harvest” (Cf. Mt 9:38) and bring in the marginalized, impoverished, and hurting. The Church, he says, is “a field hospital”. There are those who are hurt beyond a cold and cough, we’re here to do emergency surgery and try to save the unimaginably wrecked. This is a man with a magnanimous heart - no one is 'too little' to be loved by him. Just a month before his Interview the world watched his Fiat Punto on the streets of Rio de Janeiro get swamped by waves of pilgrims (I almost wanted to send my condolences to the security personnel). For Pope Francis World Youth Day was a “mystery”. He says:


“I am able to see single persons - one at a time -
to  personally encounter the person before me.
I’m not used to the masses...”


There are, I believe three main “Trinitarian” characteristics to his teaching and living of Spiritual Fatherhood, these are according to me:

1) A Father with a Heart of Mercy

At the heart of this Jesuit is a Heart of Mercy.In his first Angelus message he said time and time again (accidently endorsing Cardinal Kasper’s book on Mercy): “We get tired of asking for forgiveness, but God never tires of forgiving” (Angelus, 17 March 2013). The Gospel of the 30th week of Ordinary time (C) reminds us of the “two men that went up to the Temple to pray”, the Parable of the Pharisee and the Publican (Cf. Lk 18:9-14). In today’s media saturated context perhaps all we hear is: “The Pope doesn’t care about abortion - he only cares about preaching about Christ...”. This is false. For this Father what matters is that both the unborn as well as the woman who has committed abortion are respected and loved and thus FORGIVEN through God's Mercy. For Francis, no one - NO ONE - is outside the possibility of God’s forgiveness. We just have to reach for it.
 
In this way he imitates the “Prodigal Father” in search of the “Prodigal Son” or the “Lost Sheep” - a list of souls in which he includes himself. He does not pretend to be above - just a prophet in search of bringing “sight to the blind” (Cf. Mt 11:5).


2) A Father of Youth - Shepherd of Souls

In this “faithless generation”(Cf. Mk 9:19) - thus “blind”- we need a shepherd. This is what Francis sees as his mission. In taking up the “Keys” of Peter he has decidedly become “Father of Nations” (Cf. Gn 17:5). This is what we most clearly see as “Spiritual Fatherhood”- Fathering Souls, or “Giving Birth to Souls” as a Father. This mission is pluriform and diverse in nature, and the stakes are high.
 
Above all The Jesuit requires that we - speaking of Religious - must “give fruit”. In the Interview he mentions that “the Vow of Chastity should be a life-giving vow (of fecundity)”, therefore a religious cannot become a “Confirmed Bachelor”(scapolone) or a “Spinster”(zitella). A missionary Church (and for Francis life is equal to mission) we cannot sit back and be sterile. This is what it means to Build the Kingdom of Christ!

Finally, I would like to make reference to specifically priestly aspect of Spiritual Fatherhood: The Eucharist. There is no doubt that all people are called to find their spiritual energies in Jesus Christ 'sacramented' but the specific nature of the Priest’s celebration is diverse than that of the faithful. A contemporary psychologist has said that in celebrating the Mass a Priest “Fathers” the Eucharist as does a biological Father his child. The Mass transcends the birth of a child but the effect that it can have is profound. To kneel before the “effect” (obviously Jesus is Creator), therefore become “cause” of the Creator is profound. Too profound!


 

Benediction during Corpus Christi

3) A Father of Discernment - Life in the Spirit

There is one last aspect of Pope Francis’ Spiritual Fatherhood which is particularly ‘Jesuit’, that of discernment. “Discernment” is a forgotten word because in general, ideas are already “decided”. The standards which the World and its Followers present are somewhat ‘set in stone’.The World declares “Do whatever you want” while we ask “What should I want?”. This is not a question the World can answer, because curiously to believe and love is to transcend this World.
 
At one level for Francis it is “to do the some things of each day with a big and open heart to God and others”. On the other hand it can be to govern a Church, but to “see God in all things”.

Guiding souls is tricky business. It is not, not, not easy! (Here I have imitated the Pope’s intense repetitive style). Who can discern hearts? Who can bring them to God? This is the work of the Holy Spirit. Faith guides us to hope not just be “optimist” and bring about a holy change - with patience - in time. God knows best and in prayerful discernment - not in hurried and primary decisions - we can help souls to “grow” and “bear fruit, fruit that will last” (Jn 15:16). This is an imperative in every person’s heart, one that cannot happen without love.



Homily during Corpus Christi



Conclusion

       Every Christian is called to a Spiritual Fatherhood and Spiritual Motherhood within the Church. EVERY CHRISTIAN. This is not just a calling from without but from within. As in birth a child may cry, thus a Christian never stops crying until he gives birth to a soul. Spiritual Fatherhood and Motherhood are true dimensions within the Universal Call to Holiness. ‘Parenting’ necessitates a desire to thrive. Failures are inevitable but thus we prove that we are always spiritual infants, in need of the Eternal Father’s Mercy.
   
    As a future priest a long to be an ever better Spiritual Father. I know my place now is in the seminary - quiet, prayerful, and studious. God knows where and when these three dimensions of spiritual fatherhood will most apply. I trust in his grace since “his grace is enough for me” (Cf. 2 Cor 12:9) .
 
 
Brother John

Thursday, 24 October 2013

Learning How to become a Father (Part 1): Losing Dad on a First Friday

"Learning How to become a Father" are reflections on Spiritual Fatherhood. They are not mature reflections on the theme and may be considered more "experiences" and meditations through which we come to Spiritual Fatherhood in the Priesthood. As a seminarian I know that this will be the identity and challenge I am called to take on especially in these last years of priestly formation.
 
 
The Prodigal Son
 
 
Almost 10 years have past since my father's passing. I received the call on a First Friday, day dedicated to the Sacred Heart of Our Lord. It was my brother, Andrew. We hadn't talked in a year. The conversation was simple - we became timid as I began to intuit that something was wrong - he got to the point. For me that moment continues to stop time dead in its tracks.
"I think Dad died."

I can't remember another moment in my life where I felt my heart skip a beat - just one beat - but it skipped. Next, I got what details I could from Andrew and I promised I would be back in Atlanta as soon as I could. The pragmatic mover and shaker side of me took over and I forgot to wonder what had just happened - just, how can I make it home as soon as posible?. In prayer I searched out a meaningful passage that I had just recently read.
"...he went up on the mountain by himself to pray...During the fourth watch of the night, he came toward them...[Jesus] spoke to them, “Take courage, it is I; do not be afraid.” (Mt 14:22-27)

I didn't sleep. I froze. I felt an immense loneliness. Morning came and I was dizzy after having had a fitful night. Opening the Bible to the passage I began my morning prayer. I read it but I didn't recognize the text. I wondered what was going on. I read it a second time and it read:

"He walked along from there and saw two other brothers, James, the son of Zebedee, and his brother John. They were in a boat, with their father Zebedee, mending their nets. He called them, and immediately they left their boat and their father and followed him." (Mt 4:21-22)
I had been so tired I had mistaken Matthew 14 with Matthew 4. The fact dawned on me during mental prayer:


 "they left their boat and their father and followed Him"
I wept. The bells rang. I woke up. Your Father is no longer. Then a certainty came over me as a wave over the waters. You have a Father [God] in Heaven. I wept of hurt and lost love. There could be no better summing up of losing a father than what a kind Irish lady by my side had to say on the return trip:

"Losing a parent is as losing half your heart".


The next days went by in a flurry. Flights...Funeral home...Prayer...Greetings...I don't remember too much from these days but I can say that I went away different. Despite the hurt and the pain I was able to carry a smile all the while. I carried a secret in my heart: I have a Father in Heaven...and He Loves me.

I was purchasing a bottle of water at the airport when the cashier handed me my change. She looked up and stared. I didn't realize what I had been doing. It was then she paid me one of the most beautiful complements I had ever received: "You have a beautiful Smile". I reeled. I thought, "right here, right now? After everything I'm going through?" But the fact remains,

"Those who believe are never alone – neither in life nor in death."
Joseph Card. Ratzinger - Funeral Homily JPII


Lesson 1- First step of Spiritual Fatherhood is to discover that you have a Father in Heaven above and beyond the Father here on Earth. Only then can we begin understand the role we are called to as Spiritual Fathers for souls.